Over the years my time spent with the boys during the summers
has been enjoyable and fulfilling, finding a good mix of what they wanted to do
and what I wanted to do. For many years, the main activity the boys wanted to
do was go to a skate park. While we’ve been to quite a few different
Skatepark in Years Past |
My favorite thing to do in the summer, or any time, is to travel. It doesn’t really matter where we go; it’s just the enjoyment of spending time together, getting out of the regular routine, and creating memories that make travelling appealing to me. Whether alone or with friends, I have subjected the boys to numerous trips to Grandma and Grandpa’s, camping, waterfall viewing, historical sites, a mine tour, and our yearly visit to Castle Rock. They have spent countless hours in the car, listening to my music, reading their books, playing video games, and watching movies. Even when plans didn’t go as expected, like when we experienced mosquitos so thick we had to stay in the tent, I loved being with the kids.
One of my fondest memories of spending time with the boys
was the summer reading program we did each year. For many years there was a theme,
such as a bookshelf, a refrigerator, and a tree. After the boys read a book, they would add it to the bookshelf, choose an item to go in the refrigerator with the book name
on it, or add the book name to an apple for the tree. We set reading goals,
starting with something simple and inexpensive, like read 25 books (when the
books took them a short time to read) for ice cream, up to 100 books to go
to Michigan’s Adventure. As they got older and read chapter books, we used a
certain number of chapters instead of books. A few years ago we read the Hunger
Games trilogy as a family, sharing the same book. That was interesting!
Now that the boys have gotten older, they don’t want/need to
spend as much time with me, so I have to look for other ways to continue to
build our summer relationship. They are old enough to have lawn mowing jobs, but not
old enough to drive there themselves. By taking them to their lawn mowing jobs,
I still get the opportunity to talk with them about various topics. I am helping
them track their time, invoice it, and manage the money they make, all skills
that will benefit them in their future. Whether I am driving them to a friend’s
house, providing food to their friends here, or supporting them at an athletic
event or other extra-curricular, I am showing them how important they are to
me.
In a child’s life, summer is a very precious time. In a
parent’s life, the summers (and years) go by all too fast. I want to take
advantage of every minute I can to develop my relationships with the boys,
before they are on their own. I know that our relationship will change then, and
I want to have a strong foundation for what is to come. After my relationships
with God and my husband, my boys are the most important relationships I want to
keep until I no longer breathe. In order to do that, I have to continually work
at them, finding ways to connect, keeping communication open, and being there
when they need me. The best part about it is that I don't mind working at it...especially in the summer.
Thanks Lisa. I so needed to read this right now. It's all about relationships and keeping them strong.
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